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A lot of sisters have been asking me what Islam says about husbands (men) who don't romance their wives but straight to sex, like what my friend said that as for her she has No idea what romance is , because when the husband needs sex, she just lie down and then the husband just start Having sex with her and recently when I posted about breast sucking a lot of such questions came. To my brothers In Islam, the prophet said no one should go to the wife like animals but should send a message. Hope we know how animal mate (have sex)? The prophet said don't do that but send message which means ROMANCE, romance your wife before moving to the main sex, romancing her will help her enjoy sex and will also makes you enjoy but if you just jump to her like animal you will always hurt her cos without her wetting she will feel pains but maybe won't tell you about the pains so please brothers don't be like animal as the prophet said, don't go to her like how animal does. H...

  Shaykh 'Abdul-'Aziz ibn Baaz (رحمه الله تعالى ورحمة واسعة) said:  "...One of the disapproved matters innovated by people today is making a stage for the bride, where her husband sits with her in the presence of adorned women. Some of his or her male relatives might be present as well. There is no doubt that this custom leads to great evil and enables men to watch fully adorned, charming women. This leads to terrible consequences, so it should be banned to avoid the means leading to Fitnah and protect the society of women from what contradicts the sanctified Shari'ah..." [Majmoo ’al-Fataawa Ibn Baaz, Vol.: 4; pg.  244]

Umāmah Bint Al-Hārith said to her daughter when she being sent off to her husband:  ❝My dear daughter, if advice were to be left off due to the refinement of one's manners then you would be in no need of that. However, it is a reminder for the heedless and useful tool for the intelligent. If it were that a woman could go without a husband due to the wealth of her parents and their great need for her then you would be the least of the people in need for that. However, the women have been created for the men and the men for the women.  My dear daughter, you have left the environment from which you have sprouted and left the life which you have grown up in, going to a home that you do not know and a companion that you are unfamiliar with. He has become, by his authority over you, an overseer and a king. So be a slave to him and he will be a willing servant to you.  My dear daughter, take from me ten qualities and they will be for you an asset and a reminder: Accompany him in...

Question: Your Eminence, what is your opinion regarding marriage for a youth who is a still a university student but who is also capable of taking such a step? Will this (negatively) affect his educational progress?  Answer: I recommend marriage at an early age, for it does not have any negative influence on one's studies. Since the lifetime of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), the Salaf (righteous predecessors) used to get married while pursuing their studies. Indeed, marriage helps a person to do good deeds and it does not lead students to neglect their lessons. Rather, it helps them lower their gaze, feel contented, have a clear conscience, and refrain from all that Allah has prohibited. If marriage is feasible, I advise everyone to get married, to fear Allah in this regard, and to act according to the following Hadith, “O group of youth! Whoever among you who has the means should get married, for it helps them lower their gaze and guard their modesty.”  [Majmoo ’al-Fataawa...